As I was getting up this morning I was thinking about moms who have a picture of their baby’s first wince, baby’s first smile, baby’s first Christmas, baby’s first Valentine’s Day, and I had a tiny bit of guilt. I take more pictures of other people’s babies than I feel like I do of my own sometimes. My kids won’t have those posed, costumed, photos to look back on…..
Then I remembered why. I am not THAT mom. I am their mom. A different mom. A mom who may not have taken all the pictures because I have them here in my arms and sometimes the snuggles and messes and Craft days of life are bigger than a picture.
In fact the ones we have had “professionally” done are nice and we try and keep them as stress free as possible. For the most part the kids can be themselves and wear what they want, but the ones where we have to have them dress a certain way and have the “perfect smile” and all look the same direction as their third cousin twice removed’s sister, are just not fun. They are high stress.
The kids tend to remember the stress of that kind of picture when they look at it. Seriously, a four year old is not going to look at the funny heart glasses they wore in a picture 2 years before and think how sweet and happy they were on Valentine’s day, but they may look and remember their grandma having convulsions and singing like a flamingo caught between and alligators two front teeth, which of course was her way of making said child “happy” and “joyful so we could capture the REAL him the picture.
All that said last night my sweet niece wanted a picture to post of her Valentine ’s Day that wasn’t a seflie of her in front of the bathroom mirror with the open toilet behind her while she stool defiantly being “her own Valentine.” But she did want one that strikes out against the, “look what I got! My ring and roses is bigger than yours,” posts. So we saw some really cheesy roses and a giant fake ring at the dollar store and thought maybe my three year old could hand them to her and I could get a pic of the back of his little head looking up at her adoringly (He does truly adore her.) That would be a sweet little, #Idon’tneednomanforthesake ofaholiday post, right?
BUT, the sweet little three year old wanted to dress up in a suit and really give her this stuff and then when it was all said and done wanted to be sure she could keep it because he is, “ really marwying her!” So he was way sweet and way adorable and all the kids had fun AND we got some too cute and funny pics in a “posy” picture session without stress, who knew
I opened my computer to send those ultra-sweet photographs to my niece (shortly after my little guilty moment) so that she could thumb her nose at social media through curtness and what did I find? My cousin’s two utterly adorable heartbroken kids in their Valentine’s Day photo of happiness. It seems that they oh so love holiday’s at school. See my cousin is totally amazing at the holiday matching pajamas into the holiday day clothes into the holiday activities thing (yeah, opposite of me who sometimes buys the cookie cutters we plan on using but most times don’t get to). She always takes a picture of them “ready to party,” and we all ooohhh and ahhhh at the cuteness.
Well today, today, school was cancelled. Snow days usually bring joy and holiday photo sessions at least a conjured smile, but today this is what we got….
This is an awesome holiday picture!
So may I remind you, and myself, that dressing a kid in holiday attire and surrounding them with photo props may not always convey the picture perfect moments of life in a photograph, but that when moments of life happened to be captured forever that really does make a picture perfect.by